The blame Game

If #ruling party wins,
#Opposition – EVM fraud

If opposition wins,
Ruling party – Money played a major role

  1. You blame me for your failure
  2. I will blame you for my failure.

The blame game never Ends.

Its not just with #Political parties. Indians love to blame. For their misfortunes, For their problems, For their work pressure, For their bad appraisal, They will blame others. Because, By default, they assume them to be the purest of the pure.
Their Ego knows no bounds. They never accept defeat. They will never accept that they failed because, they performed badly, they won’t think about the problems that they did not solve
The same thought they have it on their children too.
The instant action that every Indian does to their child is, put them in school, force them to study and then dream of them entering into engineering college and join a job.
Their dream wont go beyond their son working as a slave in a IT company for a 6 digit salary.
If unfortunately their son falls in the 90% of non employable crowd , ie., not so bright, they will not try to look beyond the #education and see their son’s talent in other fields, instead they will usually put them into tuition centers. (They wont say that they have put their son in tuition, instead they use the term #coaching center 😀 :D)

 

Solution:
Don’t teach your kid to blame others.

When your kids blame their sibling/friend for any problem, Don’t just blindly believe them. Start inquiring and try to sort the problem using your brains. A typical Indian parent will not use their brain when their kid blames someone for a mistake. They will immediately believe that their kid a baby and the same aged kid whom this kid blames is bad/notorious. They will blindly go for fight with the parent of the other kid.

Instead come out of the “I am Noble”, so “My kid should be noble”. Neither you nor your kid is noble. Understand the truth. We all are humans and do bad things, evil things and rarely some good things.

  1. Right from the tender age, teach the kids that :
  2. They are not unique.
  3. They are not noble.
  4. They are not special.
  5. They are nothing but a life among millions of living beings co-existing in this world.
  6. They are not different from a bacteria/worm  and so must learn to respect animals, birds, elders.

Always teach your kids that, “They are not unique, but the actions that they do, the positive contributions that they do is what makes them unique”.

Your kid is not a gift to you from god. Its a chance that won a fight against millions of sperms, just like we are born. The chance is not a noble deed. Its done by many millions of living being. The way you raise the kid is what will decide if the kid is a gift or curse.

Immediately stop a “Kid that blames others”.  Analyse them. Discuss with them.

Only then he will get the responsibility that, “My negative actions are my liabilities, My positive actions are my credits”. A kid should understand that, His actions are his responsibilities.

Ancient Tamils were great in this. As long as Indian history was taught to the kids , Indian kids never passed their blame. Reminds me of a great story that conveys how a  kid must be given responsibilities for his actions:

llalan received the title “Manu Needhi Cholan” (the Chola who follows Laws of Manu) because he executed his own son to provide justice to a cow. Legend has it that the king hung a giant bell in front of his courtroom for anyone needing justice to ring. One day, he came out on hearing the ringing of the bell by a cow. Upon enquiry, he found that the calf of that cow had been killed under the wheels of his son’s chariot. In order to provide justice to the cow, Ellalan killed his own son, Veedhividangan, under the chariot as his own punishment i.e. Ellalan made himself suffer as much as the cow.[1] Impressed by the justice of the king, Lord Shiva blessed him and brought back the calf and his son alive. He has been mentioned in the Silappatikaram and Periya Puranam.[7] His name has since then been used as a metaphor for fairness and justice in Tamil literature. His capital was Thiruvarur.

The Mahavamsa also states that when he was riding his cart he accidentally hit a Chetiya. After that he ordered his ministers to kill him but the ministers replied that Buddha would not approve such an act. The king asked what he should do to rectify the damage and they said that repairing the structure would be enough which is what he did.[21]

Chronicles such as the Yalpana Vaipava Malai and stone inscriptions like Konesar Kalvettu recount that Kulakkottan, an early Chola king and descendant of Manu Needhi Cholan, was the restorer of the ruined Koneswaram temple and tank at Trincomalee in 438, the Munneswaram temple of the west coast, and as the royal who settled ancient Vanniyars in the east of the island Eelam.[22][23]

Source:

[contentcards url=”https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ellalan”]

 

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